Make a Lube Injector

Having a tool to get lube up your ass for fisting or toy play is, in my humble opinion, essential for safe and pleasurable play. Good lubrication reduces friction between skin and toy surfaces with the sensitive tissues in you lower gastrointestinal (GI) tract . Lubrication also captures bacteria and may even help reduce the chances of STI infection.

Getting lube in your hole is not too hard. Depending on what kind of lube you’re using you can easy squirt or push it in. But, what if you’re a depth-player. I love depth play and depending on the size of a man’s arm I can usually fit him in from anywhere pre-elbow to mid-bicep. So for me getting lube past my second hole is absolutely necessary.

Pushing and squirting lube in me just won’t to the trick. I looked for lube injectors in sex shops but found all of them woefully inadequate. Since I like creating things, do-it-yourself inventions, I decided to make my own. I went through several variations until I came up with a design that is sturdy, effective and relatively safe (depending on how you use it of course). The simple designed worked really well for me and continues to do so after many years.

My design was simple and very basic. All I did was to find a commercially available BBQ juice injector and make a couple of minor modifications. I have two versions that I use; one for getting Crisco a few inches inside my hole near the middle of my rectum. I use the other for depositing J-lube past my second hole. It’s important to note here that you want to use small quantities of lube because if you use too much, a hydraulic effect occurs and creates uncomfortable pressure as you try to move an arm or a toy up your GI tract.

My Crisco lube injector

To make the first injector, all I simply had to do was find a juice injector with a silicone o-ring plunger and throw away the injection needle. You want a silicone plunger because it will not degrade like rubber or plastic will. Rubber quickly becomes “gummy” and unusable. Some plastics will too, but plastic plungers are not recommended because they simple don’t fit tightly enough within the cylinder.

You can find scores of different brands online and on Amazon. I haven’t used this particular brand before, but this one looks ideal and only costs about $7.00

The second injector I made for depth to deposit my J-lube, was one I found at Home Depot. I later found the same model on Amazon for a lower price. With this one, all I did was to take one of the injection needles and cut it in half and then take a 1/4″ tube approximately 6″ to 8″ long and force it over the remaining part of the needle. It’s important that the fit is tight. I took a cigarette lighter to slightly melt the edges at the other end of the tubing to eliminate any sharp edges.

My deep J-lube injector

The tubing adds the necessary length to get the lube deep and also make it easy to siphon lube out of a bottle or other container

If you don’t use J-lube, due to the small diameter of the tube, you should be aware that thick lubricants won’t work. They will be nearly impossible to draw up into the cylinder. Lubes with a liquid consistency will work best.

Toys – Training for Fisting

For training to take a fist, many people ask me what toy is a good one to start with. My response is, “Well, it depends.”

What’s was good for me may not be good for you. There are a lot of things to consider such as:

  • How big of a toy you can take now
  • What can your budget afford
  • What kinds of lubricants do you use
  • Do you have any allergies to latex, lubes or anything related
  • Do you prefer latex, vinyl, rubber or silicone toys
  • How sensitive is your body to some of the chemicals toys are made of, etc.

Years ago I sat on a friend’s very fat cock that must have been a good 9 1/2 inches (24.13 cm) long. I was able to take it all the way down to the base which surprised me, because I could never take anything so big and so deep before.

So when I went looking for a toy to play with after a couple of weeks of sexual dry spell I went looking for something slightly fatter and longer. His cock also had more of a pointy head as opposed to mushroom shaped, so I also looked for something conical in shape near the tip.

When I got the toy home I found I couldn’t take it in slowly but couldn’t go deep with it. From my experience with my friend’s long cock I knew taking at much deeper was possible so I tried moving it back and forth, side to side. I found if I angled it just right I could get it in much deeper. I played with it several nights in a row trying to get it in deeper and deeper. I finally reach a point where it went in as deep as my friends cock was long, but there was still a few more inches to go. I was making good progress until I hit a sensitive spot that had a little bit of give to it. While it was sensitive it didn’t hurt to push against it, but it was quite uncomfortable. I was completely unaware of my anatomy so I didn’t know if there was a different direction I should take. I tried pointing the tip of the dildo in other directions, poking here and there but there was nowhere else to go to. The direction towards this sensitive spot was the only path there was.

Over the span of a few nights I kept teasing that sensitive area figuring I was at a valve or sphincter of some type. Due to the toy’s taper I gradually worked this spot to see if it would open. Each time it felt like I could go a little deeper. I also noticed that the level of discomfort I felt was beginning to wane. One night after having a cope of beers I decided to play with my toy again. This time I tried adding poppers to the routine. As I began teasing a way at that spot there was hardly any discomfort at all when suddenly it open and the rest of the toy went all of the way in. The sensation was incredible!

I want to stress for the reader that I never pushed the toy in to the point of painfulness. I had read that in butt play pain is a danger signal that should be seriously heeded. It is reasonable to expect some discomfort as you stretch and open your pathway, but it should never hurt. Always go slow as one quick thrust can put you in the hospital. I don’t know where the statistics come from, it may all be anecdotal, but I’ve read that more people wind up in the emergency room from toys than do fisting.

When I described my experience with a seasoned fister he congratulated me. He told me what I was going through was my “second” hole. He said it was a significant achievement and would allow me to take a hand deeper in the long run. He said my next challenge would be to train my second hole to open wider so I could get a hand through it. For me, that would be a little way down the road as for now I was really enjoying the sensation of the toy opening and then going through my second hole. That was in early 2004.

Rambone

My toy’s length wasn’t long enough to get much further than just the opening of my second hole so I went and bought another toy that was much longer. It was called “Rambone.”  You can still find it sold in many adult toy stores and even find it on Amazon. The Rambone is shaped like a very long cock which I used to get beyond my second hole to explore deeper. Its dimensions are:

  • Total Length = 16.7 in.
  • Insertable Length = 13.4 in.
  • Width = 2.35 in.
  • Girth = 7.38 in.

Today it’s 2019. I can take tall men up to their elbow. Small men to mid-bicep and men of average height just past the knuckle of their elbow. I can also take two hands. Of course it depends on the size of the man’s hands and helps a lot if he knows what he’s doing. I have a petite Vietnamese friend who is very experienced. He’s an awesome fister with small hands. He can fit both of them in my ass and work his way up midway to his elbow. The physical limitation of my anatomy will allow me to take really large hands, but not very deep and not two at a time. My pelvis can only take so much.

I won’t bore you with all of the details of every toy I used and the phases I went through to get to where I am today, but I can give you some general guidelines. I always upgraded in size gradually, always getting a toy that was slightly larger than the previous. I like depth play as much as I do width stretching so I alternated back and forth between longer and wider toys.

I preferred toys that were long and tapered; not just at the top, but kind of like a cone. When I got interested in width, I used toys more like butt plugs that went from narrow at the top to very wide at the bottom. For exploring, I used long toys with a slight taper at the top but consistent in diameter the rest of the way. Think of long bullet and you’ll get the idea.

Here are a few toys I suggest for depth and width training

Good for Depth    

Slink ®

Slink ® Ripple

Depth Probe

Longneck Smooth

Good for Width

Full Tilt

Slink® Stretch

Uncut 7

Elephant

All toys available at Square Peg Toys (R)

For lube, I generally used Crisco grease. Lard works too. Sometimes I’d mix the grease with mineral oil, water (you have to use a blender) or J-Lube. Sometimes I’d add a dash of clove oil to give it a pleasant smell and a slight numbing quality. J-lube is a powder that veterinarians use to lubricate birth canals so they can reach in to assist with the birthing process. It has other uses too. The powder is concentrated and all you have to do is blend it with water and you can make a lot of lube inexpensively. You can find many places to buy it by simply searching online.

The reason I used grease was because water based lubes wouldn’t coat latex and rubber toys very well. I didn’t use silicone lubes because they’re expensive. If you use grease, beware that grease will degrade your latex, rubber and vinyl toys over time. For me that was OK because I was frequently upgrading to bigger and wider toys.

I am a real pig for extremes. I wanted guys to get in me deep and to put both fists in my hole so I wound up buying a lot of toys to stretch me deep and wide. Your experience doesn’t have to be like that. Your toy work should get you to the point where you can easily take a toy that’s about 3 1/2 inches (3.89 cm) in diameter. When you can comfortable take that you’re probably ready to start looking for someone with small hands to stretch you a bit more and get their hand in you. Don’t expect too much the first time. You have to learn to relax, control your breathing and communicate with your partner. Your partner will also have to learn your body language, the anatomy of your hole and how his hand fits into it and how to work with you to get you to relax. It’s a lot more complicated than a drive by fuck-and-dump. You have to build a relationship. It might work the first time, but you shouldn’t expect that. It may take several sessions to get inside you and that’s typical. As a daddy once said to me, “Be patient boy. It’s not about the destination; it’s about the journey.” He was so damn true.

I’ve worked with a lot of boys. Many give up in frustration or lack of patience, but those that are consistent, patient and communicate well are more successful and in shorter periods of time that those that are not. I’ve only fisted two boys in ten years that were able to take my small hands on the first try. There could have been many more, but I don’t believe in forcing my fist into your asshole like some inexperienced and selfish tops do. Be very selective about who you choose to work with.

When you start playing with others, if a guy is going too fast and hard, tell him to slow down and go easy. If he doesn’t, politely end the session and find another partner regardless of how bad you want it. It’s not worth getting hurt.

Fisting Safety

With a bit of precaution, preparation and adherence to safe practices, fisting is generally safe and in my opinion, one of the safest fetishes you can get into. In this section I’ll share my knowledge and experience regarding safe practices so you can reduce risk and have a safe, injury-free fisting experience. Please consider that my knowledge and experience should not be considered the most comprehensive, or final word on safety. I don’t know everything. I’m no physician either. As such, I recommend that you do some research of your own. You’re likely to learn something I’ve not covered and if you do, please share it with us.

Drugs and Alcohol—Being able to relax and prepare yourself for play is important. For many people a glass or two of wine or other beverage can help. For some, maybe a little marijuana will do the trick. I don’t discourage or condemn doing this because in moderation, it works for many people. On the other hand, I don’t promote it either. Everyone is different and the effects of these substances introduce an opportunity for risk. Besides relaxing muscles these substances can impair judgment and delay motor responses. You have to decide for yourself if you want to try any of these to help get you in the mood. You are your own best judge.

Some men are into the more serious drugs; methamphetamines, cocaine, GHB, etc. I have no experience with these substances. I’ve never tried them and never want to. Unfortunately, I have had the experience of playing with guys that have been under the influence of them while we were playing. The experiences were all miserable and dangerous. These unfortunates were selfish, reckless, inconsiderate and totally absent of any sound judgment. Their skills for play were wholly deplorable and they often hurt me. I’ve had to end every session with one of these characters prematurely for my own safety. You should not be afraid to do so either.

Gloves—If you’re fisting someone it’s recommended that you wear gloves to protect yourself from contracting or passing an infection to another person. Wearing gloves is especially important in group play. Fisting a butt is most likely going to traumatize some part of the gastrointestinal tract to the point of bleeding. Bleeding may be readily apparent or so minor that it’s not visible. Blood and other body fluids can harbor viruses, bacteria and other types of infection. If you are fisting someone that is infected and if you have a cut or other open would on your hand or wrist, it is possible to contract that person’s infection including HIV and Hepatitis.

Black Nitrile Gloves – Sexy and Safe

If you’re fisting other people, blood captured under your fingernails or left on your skin can pass infections on to numerous people. Wearing gloves helps protect you from contracting and passing along infections. When using gloves, make sure they are the last thing you do before putting your hand up some guy’s butt. It does no good to put your gloves on first and then help spread newspapers under the sling, pick dropped items off the floor, open bags, help the bottom into the sling, etc. and then put your hand into his butt. They’re contaminated by then!

One last thing on the topic…It’s common sense, but I’ll just say it anyway; use a fresh set of gloves for every person you fist. I’ve actually seen people forget to change them.

Communication—Good communication makes for a fun, safe and great fisting scene. It may be awkward at first, but once you start doing it, it gets lot easier and really improves your experience. Put both of yourselves at ease and improve your safety by talking about your health status. Usually people want to know about the two biggies, HIV and HEP C. At play parties when I start off playing with someone, I introduce myself and give them a little background about myself. I’ll give them my first name, tell them a little about my fisting experience and disclose my HIV and HEP C status. I also tell them when I was last tested. Usually, they’ll reply in kind and often provide the same kind of information I just provided. If they have an issue about my HIV status (I am HIV+), they’ll let me know and tell me what they want and expect. Often they’ll say something like, “I’m negative and plan to stay that way.” I’ll acknowledge that and tell them what I’ll do to keep them safe. I’ll say something like, “Cool. I want to keep you safe too, so I’ll use gloves at all times and if you want to fuck, I’ll use a condom and I’ll make sure the condom I use is safe for your lube. I see that you’re using Crisco. I happen to have polyurethane condoms if we get that far. Is that OK with you?”

Sometimes it’s a little more complicated than that, but doesn’t have to be. The objective is to hear your partner’s concerns, acknowledge what you heard, share your own concerns, negotiate the what’s and how’s of your play and then respect and follow what you negotiated. In the end, you both should be at ease with this issue and can move on to the fun part.

It’s all About the Bottom—For you tops out there that think that the bottom is at your disposal and you call the shots get that thinking right out of your head. This kind of play has to be all about the bottom because if you’re careless you can cause serious injury and even death.

Make sure you have trimmed and filed your fingernails smooth even if you’re going to wear gloves and especially if you’re going to bare-hand fist him. The gastrointestinal tract is thinly lined and is easily punctured by sharp edges. It takes a while to get your nails trimmed right and you should start the day before. When done right, you should feel no edge of your fingernail. Smart bottoms will ask to check your nails, so be prepared.

Baking grease, the basic staple of fisting. Cheap, readily available and effective

Using Lube—Any fisting bottom with a bit of experience knows they’re responsible for bringing their own lube, especially at play parties. Doing so is proper etiquette, but the biggest reason to bring your own is to prevent transmission of communicable diseases. So, before you grease up the pig, ask him which lube is his and which one he prefers (many guys often bring more than one type of lube). If he hasn’t brought his own lube, tell him he needs to go buy some or the play is off. NEVER share your lube with anyone else and never dip into anyone else’s lube. Doing so is one hell of a way to infect multiple people by cross-contamination and really piss off the lube’s owner.

J-Lube – A water-based lubricant, a favorite for many fisters. J-lube is a concentrated powder you simply mix with water. A single bottle can make as much as 5 gallons of lube depending on how thick you like it.

Use liberal amounts of lube; put some in his ass, around the outside of his hole and around his butt cheeks near the hole and lube your hands/gloves excessively. When you think you’ve used too much lube, think again…you’re just getting started…add more lube!

Be gentle and go very slowly at first. The rectum and colon stretch, but they don’t like stretching quickly. If you go in too fast you’ll irritate the tissue inside. Once that’s done play won’t last too long and you may have ruined a night of fisting for the bottom and other tops that were looking forward to playing with his ass.

Getting Started—At first your focus should not be on watching your hand go in his ass. There’s plenty of time for that and besides your sense of touch will tell you how that’s going. Instead, watch the facial expressions of your bottom and the sounds he makes. That will give you a good idea of how well you’re doing. Ask him to use sounds or hand gestures to let you know when to stop, slow down, back up and go in more. many bottoms don’t want to come across as pushy or bossy and may not tell you how you’re doing. Encourage them to talk to you and give you guidance. I always tell my bottoms when they’re not communicative that I can’t give them the best fist job they’ll ever get if they don’t tell me what they want.

Bottoms, you’ve got a lot of responsibility for your own safety too and making your experience a blast. You have to talk to your top and explain what you’re feeling and where to go. This is especially important if you’re working with a new top. Most tops I’ve ever met are really concerned with providing you with an excellent experience, in fact they take pride in it. Usually they’re very concerned about your safety. So, help them out and give them positive feedback. If they’re doing well, tell them so. If they need to stop or slow down, tell them that too. Believe me, they’ll be grateful that you do. I’ve taught a lot of young guys to top and they were pretty nervous about it but I made sure we went slowly and coached them the whole way through it. I told them what they were feeling inside me as they made their way up my hole, how it felt to me, how to get through rings that didn’t want to open up, etc. After nearly every session with a newbie they tell me how appreciative they were that I did that because without the feedback they just didn’t know what they were doing and whether they were hurting me or blowing me away with great sensations.

In closing—That’s a lot of information to remember, but if you’ll remember some of these basic guidelines you should be good to go:

  • Communication is the key to safety and fun
  • Always wash your hands thoroughly before fisting a person even if you’re going to use gloves
  • Use a fresh pair of gloves for BOTH hands—they should be the last thing you put on just before you fist someone
  • Don’t mix fucking and fisting as this increases the risk of transmitting STDs including HIV
  • Don’t jack off while you’re fisting someone; you are adding your precum to gloves and lube which increases the risk of transmitting STDs
  • Never share lube or dip into someone else’s
  • If bleeding occurs, stop and inform your bottom. Some guys naturally bleed a little at first. You have the right and obligation to yourself to call an end to play if this makes you uncomfortable
  • Remember, it’s all about the bottom