Fisting Safety

With a bit of precaution, preparation and adherence to safe practices, fisting is generally safe and in my opinion, one of the safest fetishes you can get into. In this section I’ll share my knowledge and experience regarding safe practices so you can reduce risk and have a safe, injury-free fisting experience. Please consider that my knowledge and experience should not be considered the most comprehensive, or final word on safety. I don’t know everything. I’m no physician either. As such, I recommend that you do some research of your own. You’re likely to learn something I’ve not covered and if you do, please share it with us.

Drugs and Alcohol—Being able to relax and prepare yourself for play is important. For many people a glass or two of wine or other beverage can help. For some, maybe a little marijuana will do the trick. I don’t discourage or condemn doing this because in moderation, it works for many people. On the other hand, I don’t promote it either. Everyone is different and the effects of these substances introduce an opportunity for risk. Besides relaxing muscles these substances can impair judgment and delay motor responses. You have to decide for yourself if you want to try any of these to help get you in the mood. You are your own best judge.

Some men are into the more serious drugs; methamphetamines, cocaine, GHB, etc. I have no experience with these substances. I’ve never tried them and never want to. Unfortunately, I have had the experience of playing with guys that have been under the influence of them while we were playing. The experiences were all miserable and dangerous. These unfortunates were selfish, reckless, inconsiderate and totally absent of any sound judgment. Their skills for play were wholly deplorable and they often hurt me. I’ve had to end every session with one of these characters prematurely for my own safety. You should not be afraid to do so either.

Gloves—If you’re fisting someone it’s recommended that you wear gloves to protect yourself from contracting or passing an infection to another person. Wearing gloves is especially important in group play. Fisting a butt is most likely going to traumatize some part of the gastrointestinal tract to the point of bleeding. Bleeding may be readily apparent or so minor that it’s not visible. Blood and other body fluids can harbor viruses, bacteria and other types of infection. If you are fisting someone that is infected and if you have a cut or other open would on your hand or wrist, it is possible to contract that person’s infection including HIV and Hepatitis.

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If you’re fisting other people, blood captured under your fingernails or left on your skin can pass infections on to numerous people. Wearing gloves helps protect you from contracting and passing along infections. When using gloves, make sure they are the last thing you do before putting your hand up some guy’s butt. It does no good to put your gloves on first and then help spread newspapers under the sling, pick dropped items off the floor, open bags, help the bottom into the sling, etc. and then put your hand into his butt. They’re contaminated by then!

One last thing on the topic…It’s common sense, but I’ll just say it anyway; use a fresh set of gloves for every person you fist. I’ve actually seen people forget to change them.

Communication—Good communication makes for a fun, safe and great fisting scene. It may be awkward at first, but once you start doing it, it gets lot easier and really improves your experience. Put both of yourselves at ease and improve your safety by talking about your health status. Usually people want to know about the two biggies, HIV and HEP C. At play parties when I start off playing with someone, I introduce myself and give them a little background about myself. I’ll give them my first name, tell them a little about my fisting experience and disclose my HIV and HEP C status. I also tell them when I was last tested. Usually, they’ll reply in kind and often provide the same kind of information I just provided. If they have an issue about my HIV status (I am HIV+), they’ll let me know and tell me what they want and expect. Often they’ll say something like, “I’m negative and plan to stay that way.” I’ll acknowledge that and tell them what I’ll do to keep them safe. I’ll say something like, “Cool. I want to keep you safe too, so I’ll use gloves at all times and if you want to fuck, I’ll use a condom and I’ll make sure the condom I use is safe for your lube. I see that you’re using Crisco. I happen to have polyurethane condoms if we get that far. Is that OK with you?”

Sometimes it’s a little more complicated than that, but doesn’t have to be. The objective is to hear your partner’s concerns, acknowledge what you heard, share your own concerns, negotiate the what’s and how’s of your play and then respect and follow what you negotiated. In the end, you both should be at ease with this issue and can move on to the fun part.

It’s all About the Bottom—For you tops out there that think that the bottom is at your disposal and you call the shots get that thinking right out of your head. This kind of play has to be all about the bottom because if you’re careless you can cause serious injury and even death.

Make sure you have trimmed and filed your fingernails smooth even if you’re going to wear gloves and especially if you’re going to bare-hand fist him. The gastrointestinal tract is thinly lined and is easily punctured by sharp edges. It takes a while to get your nails trimmed right and you should start the day before. When done right, you should feel no edge of your fingernail. Smart bottoms will ask to check your nails, so be prepared.

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Using Lube—Any fisting bottom with a bit of experience knows they’re responsible for bringing their own lube, especially at play parties. Doing so is proper etiquette, but the biggest reason to bring your own is to prevent transmission of communicable diseases. So, before you grease up the pig, ask him which lube is his and which one he prefers (many guys often bring more than one type of lube). If he hasn’t brought his own lube, tell him he needs to go buy some or the play is off. NEVER share your lube with anyone else and never dip into anyone else’s lube. Doing so is one hell of a way to infect multiple people by cross-contamination and really piss off the lube’s owner.

J-Lube – A water-based lubricant, a favorite for many fisters. J-lube is a concentrated powder you simply mix with water. A single bottle can make as much as 5 gallons of lube depending on how thick you like it.

Use liberal amounts of lube; put some in his ass, around the outside of his hole and around his butt cheeks near the hole and lube your hands/gloves excessively. When you think you’ve used too much lube, think again…you’re just getting started…add more lube!

Be gentle and go very slowly at first. The rectum and colon stretch, but they don’t like stretching quickly. If you go in too fast you’ll irritate the tissue inside. Once that’s done play won’t last too long and you may have ruined a night of fisting for the bottom and other tops that were looking forward to playing with his ass.

Getting Started—At first your focus should not be on watching your hand go in his ass. There’s plenty of time for that and besides your sense of touch will tell you how that’s going. Instead, watch the facial expressions of your bottom and the sounds he makes. That will give you a good idea of how well you’re doing. Ask him to use sounds or hand gestures to let you know when to stop, slow down, back up and go in more. many bottoms don’t want to come across as pushy or bossy and may not tell you how you’re doing. Encourage them to talk to you and give you guidance. I always tell my bottoms when they’re not communicative that I can’t give them the best fist job they’ll ever get if they don’t tell me what they want.

Bottoms, you’ve got a lot of responsibility for your own safety too and making your experience a blast. You have to talk to your top and explain what you’re feeling and where to go. This is especially important if you’re working with a new top. Most tops I’ve ever met are really concerned with providing you with an excellent experience, in fact they take pride in it. Usually they’re very concerned about your safety. So, help them out and give them positive feedback. If they’re doing well, tell them so. If they need to stop or slow down, tell them that too. Believe me, they’ll be grateful that you do. I’ve taught a lot of young guys to top and they were pretty nervous about it but I made sure we went slowly and coached them the whole way through it. I told them what they were feeling inside me as they made their way up my hole, how it felt to me, how to get through rings that didn’t want to open up, etc. After nearly every session with a newbie they tell me how appreciative they were that I did that because without the feedback they just didn’t know what they were doing and whether they were hurting me or blowing me away with great sensations.

In closing—That’s a lot of information to remember, but if you’ll remember some of these basic guidelines you should be good to go:

  • Communication is the key to safety and fun
  • Always wash your hands thoroughly before fisting a person even if you’re going to use gloves
  • Use a fresh pair of gloves for BOTH hands—they should be the last thing you put on just before you fist someone
  • Don’t mix fucking and fisting as this increases the risk of transmitting STDs including HIV
  • Don’t jack off while you’re fisting someone; you are adding your precum to gloves and lube which increases the risk of transmitting STDs
  • Never share lube or dip into someone else’s
  • If bleeding occurs, stop and inform your bottom. Some guys naturally bleed a little at first. You have the right and obligation to yourself to call an end to play if this makes you uncomfortable
  • Remember, it’s all about the bottom

Cleaning Out your Bum

Cleaning out is a topic I hear about all of the time. Guys always want to know how I clean out and ask if I can offer any suggestions. I can, but cleaning out is different for everybody. In this topic I’m going to share with you my ideas and what I do and maybe by sharing you might find something useful.

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When it comes to cleaning out a lot of things come into play such as your anatomy, your pre-play diet, how deep you intend to get fisted, how long do you think you’re going to play, how long will it be from the time you clean out to the time the first guy gets is hand in you and will there be any touch up facilities when you arrive at your destination if you’re traveling out.

Diet plays a key role in cleaning out. If you don’t eat a lot, there isn’t a lot to clean out. Light foods such as fish and chicken and foods high in fiber are easy to move through your system and flush out comparatively easy, but you may be cleaning out all night if you eat a lot, so be careful you don’t go totally vegetarian 24-48 hours beforehand. My pre-play meals will usually consist of chicken, pork or beef; rice, pasta or sweet potatoes; and dense vegetables such as broccoli, cauliflower or carrots. That usually keeps things together and makes the cleaning a bit easier. I keep the meat portions on the smaller side.

I like to play deep which requires going up further and cleaning out a bit more. I use a shower diverter; a hose attached to the shower for those of you that don’t know what that is. I have 3-4 different nozzles that I use. I am very careful with water pressure as it can rupture the delicate linings within your gastrointestinal tract. I use warm water. Cold water might be better but I hate cold water. I hold the nozzle upright pointing to the ceiling. I turn the water on until the water coming out of the nozzle is about the height of the width of my palm, usually 6-8 inches.

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I like to play in San Francisco a lot so I have to make sure I’m really, really clean for that long gap. It’s an hour and a half drive from Sacramento. I start out with a light cleaning mid-afternoon and a thorough cleaning before leaving. I take a nozzle with me in case I need to touch up because a lot of fister’s have accommodations to do that.

When I clean out I use no solutions, just water. I rinse and rinse until no more solids are coming out. Now for the bizarre part—I have a tub/shower setup that allows me to get into an incline position where my head can be lower than my ass. I place my feet on the top edge of the tub at one end and place my hands on the bottom of the tub at the other end so that my ass is literally sticking way up in the air; in other words I do a handstand in the shower with a tube in my butt.  This position allows water to flow deeper into my GI tract. When I fill full, I stand up, take out the nozzle and release. I do this several times. Sometimes I get it to the point where the water runs clear, but usually not.

Getting clear water is hardly possible no matter how many times I repeat the process. And it may not be all that safe. I don’t know—I’m not a physician. As long as I’m not getting any solids, I’m OK with that. Generally, when I arrive at my destination, I’ll do a quick touch-up before playing just to make sure I’m still clean. One of those drug store enema bulbs you can squeeze is convenient for this…or you can use a saline solution enema kit like Fleet. Nine out of ten times, I’m still clean and ready to play.

Sometimes after cleaning I’ll use an anti-diarrhea tablet to firm things up, but I don’t like to do that because of the side effects which are minor, but annoying. However, I always take 2-3 Ibuprofen after cleaning out to help calm any inflammation from my rigorous cleaning routine. This is what works for me. I’m physically capable for performing the gymnastics in my shower/tub to clean out that way. You may not be as fortunate, but the point is to try to lower the level of your guts so water wants to flow down into them so it can flush them out. The use of ibuprofen helps bring swelling and inflammation down. I have a prescription for 800 MG so that’s how much I use. You should consult a physician as this could be very hazardous with some medical conditions or in combination with other drugs. I’m regularly seeing a physician so he knows how much I take, how often and for what…mainly inflammation of my wrist due to repetitive motion.

There are actually a few websites out on the web that offer different cleaning techniques. You might want to check them out and see what they have to say. Here are a couple I know of:

How to Clean Your Ass Website

How to Clean your Butthole Video (YouTube)